Do NOT Apologize For Your Body — OWN IT!
I remember when I first heard the term body positivity uttered aloud; I was an oversized teenager, surrounded by the loving embrace of friends whose bodies were being pushed to the margins. And no, I’m not messing with you — they were seriously being PUSHED.
Either they were rushing to get laser hair removals or the perfect gym trainer, some of them were on a “cucumber” diet, some on diet pills. Teenagers on their way to turning into Bratz dolls, finding the perfect dermatologist, and starting a variety of treatments to enhance their features.
I’d love to tell you that none of this affected me at all and how the people I surrounded myself with all year round didn’t leave any impact on me, how I’ve been an exception. But the reality of it is that I’ve fallen prey to most of these myself.
After years of dealing with all these insecurities, it is only NOW that I’ve realized that “validation is what fuels us most”. And when I took a deeper dive into how and why I felt the way I did, it really came down to two things:
How society expects one to look:
Not only the “aunties” but also the labels we associate our peers with e.g., a nerd, dancer, the popular pretty girl, hot girl, etc., and their representation in the media. “What you’re supposed to look like!” This brings me to my next point….
Unrealistic standards of beauty:
No, I can’t walk out of my house looking like the women you see in magazines claiming to have “woke up like this”. I mean I don’t use it as an excuse to reach an unhealthy level of obesity or just look absolutely unkempt, however, even if I did, I’d like not to be shamed/judged for my choice.
And to everyone out there who thinks LOVING their body is far out of their reach, I’d say hop onto the journey of body ACCEPTance with me by:
1. Changing the record in your head
What you say and think about yourself matters as it sets the tone for how you care for yourself and how you approach life. If you’re in a constant cycle of negative self-talk it’s time to change that tune in your head to something more positive. Next time you catch yourself criticizing your body turn this around by saying something nice!
2. Giving thanks to your body
There may be parts of your body that you may not like and that’s OK! It’s normal! Do NOT let it consume you. Practice gratitude and thank your body for all the good it has done. It sounds a little kooky but it will really help connect with your body more kindly and healthily.
3. Focusing on the things that you like
Pull yourself out of all kinds of negative thoughts! Battle them by dialing up on all sorts of positive vibes by giving specific focus to the parts of your body that you do like, no matter how big or small. This simple shift in thought processing will enable you to move past any uncomfortable feelings and move more towards acceptance.
I do believe that making these small changes will make a huge difference, in more areas of your life than you think! So I urge you to make the right choices for yourself today and EVERY DAY!